Starting Today


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September 4, 2012

It’s important to make someone happy, and it’s important to start with yourself. Happiness is not something you postpone for the future; it is something you design into the present.

Starting today…

1. Appreciate what you have. – If we counted our blessings instead of our money, we would all be a lot richer. Happiness is there if you want it to be. You just have to see that it’s wrapped in beauty and hidden delicately between the seconds of your life. If you never stop for a minute to notice, you might miss it.

2. Focus on things that truly matter. – The simple fact that you are even here, alive, on this planet is a divine miracle, and you should not spend the time you have being busy, being miserable. Every moment you get is a gift, so stop focusing on unhappy things, and spend your moments on things that truly matter to your heart.
3. Define your own meaning of life, and pursue it. – What is the meaning of life? Whatever you want it to be. Don’t fear failure; fear a lifetime of mediocrity due to lack of effort and commitment. There are so many people out there who will tell you that you CAN’T. What you need to do is turn around and say, ”Watch me!”

4. Embrace life’s challenges. – You may think that taking a detour in life is a waste of time and energy, but you can also see the detour as a means of learning more about who you are and where you are heading in your life. Being off the beaten path may be disorienting and confusing at times, yet it challenges your creative spirit to discover new ways to build a stronger YOU. In the end, it’s usually the tough situations that feel like your tomb that actually become your cocoon. Hang in there. You’re coming out of this stronger and wiser.

5. Find the balance that allows you to be who you truly are. – Your worst battle is between what you know and what you feel. One of the hardest decisions you will ever have to make is when to stay put and try harder or when to just take your memories and move on. Sometimes you have to step outside of the person you’ve been, and remember the person you were meant to be, the person you are capable of being, and the person you truly are.

6. Love your body enough to take care of it. – You’re beautiful; but keep in mind that not everyone is going to see that. Never be ashamed of yourself because you are born into one skin. You can scar it, stretch it, burn it, mark it, tan it, and peel it. But you are always in it, so you might as well take care of it and learn to love it.

7. Limit your time with negative people.
– You can’t make positive choices for the rest of your life without an environment that makes those choices easy, natural, and enjoyable. So protect your spirit and potential from contamination by limiting your time with negative people.

8. Treat others the way you want to be treated.
– Be conscious of your attitude and your actions. You may be on top of the world right now – feeling untouchable. You may have all the tools at your disposal to do and say whatever you want. But remember, life is a circle – what goes around, comes around eventually.

9. Set a good example. – If you want to empower others in your life, you need to start living the most empowered version of yourself first. You are never too old to set another goal or to dream a new dream. Believe in what you want so much that it has no choice but to become your reality. And don’t ever compare yourself to anyone else; stay focused on your own journey and leave footprints behind.

10. Accept what is, and live for the possibilities that lie ahead. – Never waste your time wondering about what might have been. Get busy thinking about what still might be, and trusting that however it plays out, it will leave you glad that what might have been, never came to be.

What are your thoughts? Share them below.

Until next time…


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Seven Ways to Change Your Life in the Next Seven Days


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August 31, 2012

Life change may seem to take years to achieve but there are steps you can walk today and in the next week that perhaps can change your life forever.

Most are little steps, but when combined together they can create big and lasting change.

Here are 7 ways to change your life in the next 7 days:

1. Change your words and phrases

One of the most effective ways to change your life is to change your attitude and mindset. And the best way to change your attitude and mindset is to remove certain words and phrases from your vocabulary and to replace them with others that are more positive.

It might take some time to remove negative phrases and words because you’ve gotten so used to them. But once you start using new words and phrases that are more positive, you’ll be surprised at how almost instantly people around you react differently and how you look at the world around you in a fresh way.

Your entire life changes without you having to change everything.

Here are some words and phrases to stop using:

- “It’s just one of those days.”

- “Same s**t, different day.”

- “Same old, same old.”

- “Pretty good.”

- “What’s the world coming to?”

- “Kids these days.”

- “I can’t.”

- “I don’t know.”

- “The good old days.”

- Hate – It’s such a powerful word that has become too common in our vocabulary.

- Retarded – I don’t know why people insist on using this word to describe something they don’t like or understand.

- Gay

2. Count your blessings

We all get caught up and forget to reflect on how fortunate we are. So in the next 7 days take an hour and think about:

- What you’re glad to have experienced – sometimes it’s good, sometimes it’s a bad experience, but it’s shaped who you are. For me, one thing I’m glad I experienced was poverty.

- What you’re fortunate to have – family, food, shelter.

- What you’re fortunate to not have – it could be sickness or debt.

3. Dust off your bucket list

Take out your list of things to do before you die and find something you can do in the next week. Or write something new down and do it. One of the things on MY bucket list this year: SKYDIVING! Yes, I did it on June 18, 2012!

4. Wake up claiming the Best. Day. Ever.

One day can positively change your entire life. And that one day needs to start with one good morning.

During the next 7 days wake up claiming that it will be the best day ever and try your hardest to maintain that attitude all day.

5. Try something you think you’re bad at

Perhaps you think you’re horrible at singing, writing, basketball, or some other talent. But perhaps you’ve just never really given yourself the time to attempt and if you do, you might find a new talent for yourself. What have I tried that I thought I was really bad at? Push ups! I went from doing just one to 14!

6. Declare your life’s purpose

It can certainly be done in a week with focus and a bit of work.

7. Recognize change happens constantly

Every single day your life changes no matter what. Even if you go through the same routine over and over again, no two days are ever the same. Recognize this and even the days of adversity and pain will become bearable because you know that “good new days” lie ahead.

What do you plan to do to change your life in the next 7 days?

Until next time…


16 Tips to Give Your Attitude a Boost


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August 29, 2012

Your attitude is everything.

It is how you see the things around you, how you deal with the situations you face, and what you think about life. The difference between a positive and negative attitude could be the difference between a positive or negative life.

The tips below are quick and highly effective. Make use of them today and start getting results immediately.

1. Rise and Shine! Getting up early and taking a walk in the morning is a great way to start the day. Fifteen or twenty minutes is plenty of time for a quick walk in the brisk morning air.

2. Tomorrow is a New Day. When things aren’t going the way you might like them to go, remember that as time passes, so do your troubles. At the time it might hard to realize that things will get better, but rest assured they will.

3. Control. The only one who can give you a good attitude is you. And the great news is, it can happen when you want it to. You could wake up tomorrow with a brand new outlook on life. And why? Because your attitude is yours to control. You don’t need permission from anyone to change it.

4. Circle of Friends. You may be trying to stay positive, but if your friends or coworkers are negative, it may make for a losing battle. The company you keep impacts your attitude greatly. Seldom will you find a group of negative thinkers and one positive attitude together. Negativity can spread, so be sure to keep clear of noticeably negative situations.

5. Healthy Diet. You have heard it a thousand times, and this will make it a thousand and one. A good diet is vital to maintaining energy, alertness, and a positive attitude. Without the necessary amounts of fuel for your body, it cannot function properly. If you find yourself in a tired and negative mood, ask yourself, ‘Have I eaten yet today?’

6. Sleep. Just as important as a healthy diet is the right amount of sleep. It seems obvious but many people don’t get enough sleep at night. Without rest, the body and mind become irritable, fatigued, and they drag through the day. The same effects can result from oversleeping. Make sure you get the sleep you need each night.

7. Your Hobby to the Rescue. It is important to have a fun hobby or activity that you can do when facing a problem or a long, hectic day. Sports, books, collecting, etc. are great ways to get away from the hustle and bustle and enjoy yourself.

8. Do Unto Others. It’s true what they say, you get what you give. When you focus on treating others positively and with respect, you will usually receive the same treatment. Change the focus from yourself to others and let the giving spirit be the reason for your improved view of the world.

9. The Bigger Picture. When you think of the world as a whole, it may serve to downplay the obstacles in your life that cause frustration or complication. You might have it bad, but the odds are that someone else has it worse. That in itself is enough to make people thankful for what they have.

10. Try Something New. If you feel like you’re stuck and you need a way to break out, try something new. Picking up a new instrument, trying out a new sport, or discovering a new talent may add some excitement and enjoyment to your life.

11. Past Proofs. Others have successfully done what you are trying to do, and that is why you should be positive about the future. It doesn’t matter what you are trying to accomplish, the chances are that someone has done it. That means you can do it too. We are all human, and we all have the same 24 hours in each day. If they can do it, so can you.

12. Stop It. If you get up on the wrong side of the bed, that doesn’t mean you have to go to bed on that same wrong side. If your day begins poorly, make an effort to correct its direction. Realize you aren’t happy and fix the problem. Your bad beginning could turn into a happy ending.

13. You Need Bad Days. If you do have a bad day though, that’s all right. Some people have trouble with that thought. They think that one bad day is not acceptable, making it even worse for them. We all have an off day. The important thing is to make sure we improve the next.

14. Write It Down. Want a positive attitude? Describe your attitude in writing. Your plan will be easier to work if you know what you want. Knowing you want a better attitude may not be enough. Get specific, plan your work, and work your plan.

15. Helping Hands. Bringing your friends and family into the picture is a great way to keep you heading in the right direction. Tell some friends about your desire for a better attitude and tell them to let you know when you are getting negative. You may not want to admit you have a negative attitude, but your friends sure will tell you.

16. Be the Optimist. Being the optimist for others can help you see the positive things in your own life. When a friend comes to you with a problem, remind yourself that you are trying to improve your attitude and make your best effort to give the most positive advice you can. It doesn’t have to be overdone, but it should have a very positive flavor to it.

Make use of the above tips and you’ll find yourself a true optimist in no time!

What are YOU doing to change your attitude today? Share your comments below!

Until next time…


Think Abundance, for You and for Everyone


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August 28, 2012

It is our mind that creates the kind of life we live. If we think positively we will transform our life accordingly. Everything starts from within, from the most simple action to the greatest achievement. We cannot always have control over our external circumstances, but we can control our inner world of thoughts, where everything starts. We can’t always control our outer universe, but we can, with some effort, control our inner universe.

You are unhappy and negative because of how you think, but you can change the way you think. With a little work and effort you can change how you think, and this will automatically change your attitude, expectations, actions and reactions, which will lead to more motivation, happiness and improved life.

We get what we expect to get, therefore, begin right now to expect the very best of everything that this world has to offer – and wish the same for everyone else. There is plenty of everything in the Universe for everyone, and the Universe can create more of the good things for everyone. Don’t think lack, think abundance, for you and for everyone.

What are you going to start being happy about now?

Until next time…


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There is Just the Right Moment for Everything


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August 27, 2012

“There is just the right moment for everything. If you find obstruction on your path, back off just a minute. Take time to allow for an integration of this new information. Your being wants to create perfection, but perfection cannot be forced. If things are not working out well, take a break, especially a mental break. Let go of how you were looking at the situation. Allow the super-conscious to do its tempering work of synthesis.”

“It will re-inspire you to right and harmonious action. Imagine there is a smooth flowing river of life with a strong current just for carrying you effortlessly forward. Step into it in your mind’s eye. Feel the gentle push and let your body float on it. Just a moment’s visualization can put you on the right course. It gives your higher being time to see what’s really needed. It may only be an adjustment of thought, a slight change in plans, but the increment of difference may be all that is needed to make everything happen easily.”

~Carol Bridges

Until next time…


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How to Be Happy


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August 24, 2012

More than 100 years ago, author Robert Louis Stevenson offered the following tips for maintaining a positive attitude. They still apply today.

1. Make up your mind to be happy. Learn to find pleasure in simple things.

2.Make the best of your circumstances. No one has everything, and everyone has something of sorrow intermingled with gladness of life. The trick is to make the laughter outweigh the tears.

3. Don’t take yourself too seriously. Don’t think that somehow you should be protected from misfortune that befalls other people.

4. You can’t please everybody. Don’t let criticism worry you.

5. Don’t let your neighbor set your standards. Be yourself.

6. Do the things you enjoy doing but stay out of debt. Never borrow trouble.

7. Imaginary things are harder to bear than real ones. Since hate poisons the soul, do not cherish jealousy, enmity, grudges. Avoid people who make you unhappy.

8. Have many interests. If you can’t travel, read about new places.

9. Don’t hold postmortems. Don’t spend your time brooding over sorrows or mistakes. Don’t be one who never gets over things.

10. Do what you can for those less fortunate than yourself.

11. Keep busy at something. A busy person never has time to be unhappy.
~ Robert Louis Stevenson</em

Here’s to being happy!!! Until next time… ~DHSI *For more positive thoughts, visit the following link: POSITIVE THOUGHTS

50 Things to Stop Doing Forever


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August 8, 2012

Although I’ve been trained to understand the concepts and actions that undermine our happiness and personal growth, there’s nothing like watching someone reach that ‘ah ha’ moment and begin to transform their lives. Not only is it profoundly gratifying to be privy to these moments, it helps me examine the areas in my own life where I’m stuck in old routines and behaviors that aren’t serving me.

Often, we don’t even realize we have other options in our perspective, beliefs, and actions, until someone leads us to a new way of thinking. Our routines and behaviors have become so ingrained, and even addictive, that it is often impossible to identify them as the cause of so much of our frustration and suffering. I firmly believe that there are some ‘universal’ shifts that everyone should make in order to live a life of integrity, balance, fulfillment, and joy. These shifts aren’t always easy to embrace, but the first step toward change and growth is always awareness.

Here are 50 things to stop doing forever in order to shift your life up to a more profound level of happiness. You may not agree with all of these, but I invite you to ponder these suggestions over time to see if awareness might lead you to a new approach to your life.

I have completely stopped . . .

1. Struggling. I don’t resist or fight against life or even ‘bad’ events. I go with the flow and make the best choices I can in the moment.

2. Doing things because I ‘should.’ I am not motivated by guilt but by my own adult decisions about what is best for me.

3. Delaying solving a problem. I face the situation squarely and handle it as quickly as possible so it doesn’t cause me anxiety.

4. Tolerating crap from other people (VERY important). I no longer hang around with people who diminish me, drain my energy, or treat me poorly.

5. Creating or tolerating drama in my life. Even though it can bring attention and a weird sort of excitement, I know that drama creates negative energy.

6. Setting goals that I should achieve. I set goals that I want to achieve.

7. Trying to change people, especially my spouse or partner. I accept people exactly as they are or I get out. (This doesn’t mean you can’t ask for something you need from the relationship.)

8. Putting other people’s needs before my own. I recognize that unless my cup is mostly full, I can’t be available to lovingly give to others.

9. Creating mindless tasks. Life is too precious and beautiful to whittle it away on empty tasks just to feel like you are accomplishing something.

10. Putting work, money, projects, or television before those I love. Relationships are the most important thing in my life, and I act like it.

11. Spending money to fill a void. I seek to find the cause of my emptiness.  I don’t try to buy my way out of it.

12. Beating a dead horse.  If I see something isn’t working, I recognize it and move on.

13. Driving aggressively. I don’t need to express my power or my urgency through my car. I don’t tailgate, cut people off, or run yellow lights.

14. Gossiping. I recognize that gossip is my attempt at having power over others, and I release my need for that.

15. Trying to prove myself. I just am myself and live according to my own values and personal operating system.

16. Owning other people’s problems (another critical point). I will support, listen, and love, but I no longer manage or invest myself in other people’s difficulties.

17. Manipulating people. I don’t have to go in the back door to get what I need. I ask directly.

18. Defining myself by my achievements or roles. I define myself by the actions and choices I make in every moment.

19. Dwelling on the past. I consciously live in the moment and focus my awareness on what is happening right now.

20. Reacting before thinking. I may not be able to control my feelings in every situation, but I can control my behavior.

21. Pretending I’m too old or it’s too late. I recognize this as an excuse for not trying.

22. Saying yes when I mean no. I am becoming a master at saying no even when I know it might upset someone.

23. Compromising my values. I know what my values are, and I completely orient my life around them.

24. Over-promising. I promise only 50% of what I can deliver, leaving myself space for change.

25. Allowing other people to waste my time. I take the necessary steps to educate or avoid them.

26. Accepting anxiety, depression or ill-health. I do everything in my power to restore my mental and physical health because I know good health is the foundation for a happy life.

27. Filling all of my time. I leave some time during the day completely open to just do nothing.

28. Focusing on the future. It’s great to have goals, but I enjoy the process as much as the outcome.

29. Believing I’m right. I recognize that there are many ways to perceive things and more than one way to handle situations.

30. Ignoring my intuition. I trust my instincts and listen to my own wisdom.

31. Accepting limitations. I assume I can accomplish or achieve something until it is absolutely proven I cannot.

32. Isolating myself. I know that it takes effort to expand my network of friends, and I see the value in that.

33. Fighting what comes naturally. I no longer try to force my life to be a square peg in a round hole.  I go with the flow and strengthen my strengths.

34. Accepting boredom. I either find the beauty in the moment or I take action to create energy and enthusiasm.

35. Feeling guilty. I right any wrongs, I ask for forgiveness, I restore my integrity.  Then I let it go.

36. Juggling. I don’t fill my plate so full that my life is out of balance.

37. Stuffing my feelings. I express myself fully, ask for what I need, and seek help to resolve pain feelings I can’t handle alone.

38. Behaving childishly. I don’t have to whine or have a tantrum to get what I need.

39. Having a chip on my shoulder. I have a lighthearted approach to life and don’t get my feelings hurt easily.

40. Controlling people or situations. I accept ‘what is’ rather than what I think should be.

41. Waiting for other people to decide. I have the self-confidence to initiate.

42. Living beyond my means. I know that debt is an enormous energy drain and reclaiming that energy is far more important than material things.

43. Eating for emotional comfort. I recognize this when it happens and deal with the issue directly.

44. Taking other people for granted. I regularly express my love and appreciation to those close to me.

45. Fighting. I simply don’t fight with anyone any more.  I calmly walk away from arguments until I can resolve conflict peacefully.

46. Over-thinking. I spend a reasonable amount of time contemplating a problem or decision.  Then I get out of my head and take action.

47. Living below my standards. I am clear on my standards, and I live up to them.

48. Stagnating. I continue to actively grow and learn.

49. Seeking to fill my ego before my soul. I can distinguish between the two and place my priority squarely on soul-fulfilling actions and choices.

50. Assuming I’m not creative. Life itself is a creative act, and every day I can create myself just the way I want to be.

What have you learned about things to stop doing forever in order to expand your personal growth and happiness? Feel free to leave your thoughts below.

Until next time…


About the author

Jason Garcia, Founder
Author, Shifting the Balance

Failure can be a Learning Experience


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Success isn’t automatic and it isn’t a disgrace to fail.  Many famous people have failed in their lifetime.  In fact, failure is one of the best learning experiences that exists.  So, get the notion out of your head that failure is a disgrace.  What is a disgrace is for you to “Quit” because of failure…to quit trying…to give up or to go into self-pity mode or act like a martyr.

Let’s examine some of the reasons people fail:


Failure isn’t easy to accept; but then it shouldn’t be.  Let’s consider some of the reasons we may fail. The very first thing that comes to my mind when considering why some people fail is pretty basic.  They lack a clear purpose in what they are trying to accomplish.  Add the fact that many don’t document their goals and create milestones to provide measures of success along the way and failure is almost imminent.


Another factor is just as simple to understand:  procrastination.  “Procrastination is like a disease.  It develops slowly, often over a long period of time.”  It can be like an anchor around your neck.  We have to learn to deal with it if we are to become effective at whatever we choose to do.  You see, procrastination is the breeding ground for incompetence.  If we learn to conquer it, we will maximize our effectiveness and become everything we can be. 

Experts have written that only twenty percent of employees reach the level of effectiveness based on individual potential.  I believe that procrastination contributes to that negative statistic.  Procrastination can drain your energy, affect your attitude and suppress your creativity.  It can accelerate failure.



Most of us start out with great ambition; however, many of us run out of steam before we really succeed.  Success requires that we become very persistent about reaching our objectives without being obnoxious.  This means we must stay focused on our objectives while utilizing a servant style of leadership to gain the support of those around us to help us succeed. 


Wolves understand that survival depends on a successful hunt.  As a result they do not practice panic response management that we as leaders sometimes demonstrate in a crisis.  Wolves actually develop a plan working together to ensure that they capture and kill their prey.  They are extremely patient and understand that success is not guaranteed and that a success rate of 100% is not realistic.  Every wolf within the pack has a specific role and they are expected to live up to their responsibility.


It isn’t often included in the list of primary attributes we look for in leaders and yet to me, it is an underpinning of good leadership.  Ben Franklin once said,  “He that can have patience, can have what he will.”  Patience allows us to suspend judgment long enough to make considered decisions.  Often, when the pressure is on, we can make snap decisions that we later come to regret. 

With a little patience, we can give ourselves the benefit of stopping to consider the impact of the decisions we make and whom we might be affecting by making them.  And besides, ill-considered decisions usually result in having to take corrective action anyway.  Make no mistake —- there is a distinct difference between Patience and Procrastination.

Self Awareness:

Every manager, every employee and every leader that has any drive at all strive to be successful.  Success starts with self-awareness.  That means understanding your personal strengths and weaknesses.  It also means having enough humility to work on those weaknesses.


Never Give Up:

Take Responsibility for who you were, who you are, but more importantly – who you want to become.  It really doesn’t matter how or why you are in the current state you are in.  You must take responsibility for it.  Let go of your fears. Some general once said, “No plan survives contact with the enemy.”  To me that means unless you begin to execute, you will never figure out what adjustments and changes are necessary to succeed.Remember…Success isn’t a gift.  It just doesn’t happen.  Like the Wolf — you must learn to lick your wounds.  They will heal.  But if you are going to create a journey toward success, you have to plan for it.

We all live 24 hours each day.  What you do with that time determines your success.  Ask yourself if you really have defined your destination.  Ask yourself if you have defined the map for your journey. 

Don’t Fear Failure!

Have a success story? Feel free to share in the comment section.  We just might feature you in a future blog!

Until next time…


About the author

Rick Johnson, Executive Advisor, expert speaker, wholesale distribution’s “Leadership Strategist”, founder of CEO Strategist, LLC a firm that helps clients create and maintain competitive advantage. Need a speaker for your next event, E-mail


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